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GOVERNMENT CAN AND SHOULD GET OUT OF MARRIAGE

Oklahoma Considering Separation Of Marriage & State (VIDEO):     http://tiny.cc/140218d

Greetings in the name of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.  How is everyone doing?  I pray that this blog finds everyone in good health and spirits.  I am currently in Winfield, KS on my way to Abilene, KS.  I just got back on the road after taking three wonderful days at home.  Monday was the anniversary of Paula and my wedding.  We have been married eight wonderful years.  It is so hard to believe that we have been married that long.  It feels like we just got married. Loving her is so fun and easy.  I love her to death.

Today, I want to talk about marriage.  I have asked people many times, "Why get married?"  "What is marriage?"  and many other questions like that and it is amazing that no one has been able to answer it.  Here is a better one, "Why should government be involved?"  I have posted on facebook, twitter, and even briefly blogged that government should be out of the marriage business.  I was so happy when last month, Oklahoma law makers started talking about getting state government out of marriage.  I back this idea 100%.  Marriage is a private and personal matter.  Who is government to grant people permission to marry anyway?  Are they some kind of moral compass when it comes to marriage?  What does it matter anyway if the government tells a couple they can't marry?  If two people wants to live as a couple, they will do it with or without the government.  So, it isn't like the government is stopping anything.  Government has hurt marriage by making it a public and legal matter.  Today, most people look at marriage as nothing more than a contract or a way to get more benefits.  Because of this, people get married for the wrong reasons and end up getting divorced.  There is absolutely no reason government needs to be involved in marriage.  People can and should get married in their own way using whatever ceremony they want and having whoever they feels has authorization to marry them.

To make my point about government making marriage nothing more than a legal matter, I heard someone making the case as to why marriage has to be regulated by government on the radio today.  I guess this issue has gained in popularity nationally.  The person said that if two people get married without government, has children, shares money, and gets a divorce, who gets the children and the money if one person is a Catholic and the other becomes Atheist?  They were both Catholic when they got married but now the other has changed to atheist.  Everyone, raise your hands if you know two people who live together, have children, and then separate.  What did they do when they separated and didn't agree on money, house, or kids?  Go to court, right?  Why can't that happen when two people get married privately?  There really isn't any difference now between a legal marriage and two people who live together as if they are married.  Those of you who are playing house and have children, if you two separate, you will have to go through the same thing as two people who divorce.  So really, we will not have to change anything when it comes to divorce if government gets out of marriage.  The only difference is that people will not have to ask for the government for permission to divorce because government will not recognize the marriage.

When it comes to benefits, government shouldn't be promoting marriage in any way shape or form.  People shouldn't be rewarded by the government for getting married.  Marriage should be personal and the reward should only be the marriage.  If a couple is only getting married for the financial or other physical rewards, they shouldn't be getting married at all.  They shouldn't even be living together because that isn't true love.  Married people shouldn't be treated differently by the government than single people either.

If you support government getting out of marriage, please contact your repressentatives in Washington and in your state. If you have any questions, feel free to comment the questions in this blog, on facebook (oktomcat), or on twitter (oktomcat).  Take care and God Bless.

Love,
The Oklahoma Tomcat

FROM FREEDOM TO BONDAGE

Amy grew up with good parents who cared for her and taught her good morals and respect. She was a straight A student and stayed out of trouble.  When she graduated high school, she left home and went off to college where she continued to do very good.  While in college, she met a handsome and charming young man named Bill.  He was polite, funny, and always complemented Amy.  Oh the complements.  Bill poured out complements to Amy all the time.  He told her that he looked up to her and told her that she is a very smart woman.  He put her on a pedestal and treated her like a princess.  It didn't take long before Bill and Amy was a couple.  They spent all their free time together and Amy knew she had found her dream man.  She loved him with all her heart.  After graduation they both got good jobs, got married, and bought a place together.  Bill didn't want Amy to have to worry about anything so he took care of all the bills and finances.  He even got a very good job and told Amy that she didn't have to work outside the house.  He took care of everything for her.  She was living a dream.  Shortly after having their first child, Bill told Amy that he wanted to move to a different state and away from their friends and family.  Amy didn't feel comfortable about moving to a place where they would have to start over and were they wouldn't know anyone.  She also didn't like that he would be leaving his job.  But she loved Bill and trusted him, so they moved.  Amy was busy with the child and things in the new house so she never had time to meet new people.  She felt that she had no support or help.  Shortly after moving, Bill was pointing out every mistake she made and started making her feel bad.  Slowly, she started feeling worthless, like she couldn't do anything without him.  He was even criticizing her and undermining her in front of their child. If she told the child to do something, he would tell the child not to do it and that his mom was stupid. One day Bill got home and Amy didn't have dinner ready.  He got bad and slapped her. This was the first time he hit her.  She was shocked and started to cry. He apologized and told her that he had a bad day and he will not hit her again.  It wasn’t long though before he got mad at her because he found a dirty plate and threw the plate at her.  The hitting and yelling started becoming a regular thing.  Hope came to Amy though.  She found out that she was pregnant and she began to think that the baby will change Bill.  That didn’t happen though.  With the new child, Bill became more controlling and abusive. Amy now felt that this life was all she had.  She felt that she couldn’t leave because she needed Bill to take care of her. She feels that she can’t do anything without her husband.

Greetings in the name of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.  How is everyone doing?  I pray that y’all find this blog in good health and spirits. I am currently at Alco in Pawhuska, OK.  I have to deliver here tomorrow morning and have two more deliveries after I am done here.  After I have made all of my deliveries, I get to go home for a 4 day weekend.  YAY!!!

I have been wanting to do this blog for a very long time.  Recently, a few things happened that finally pushed me to write it.  One thing was when my wife called me and suggested that I write a blog along this topic.  It shocked me because I never told my wife about my plan to write the blog. That was a sign to me that I need to write this blog.

The story I told above is based on stories I have been told by some of women I knew who were abused.  I made the names up and I generalized the story, but the steps that led to the young women becoming abused are the same in every case I have heard.  When people hear that volunteered as a child advocate and have worked with abused women, they often ask why anyone would remain in an abusive relationship. Some have even said that there is something wrong with a person who willingly remains with a spouse who is abusive.  It is easy to question why someone would stay in an abusive relationship when we either have never been in one or don’t think we are in an abusive relationship.  That is correct, I said “if we don’t think we are in an abusive relationship.”  It is possible to think you are not in an abusive relationship and yet be in one.  To tell you the truth, the majority of us are vulnerable to abuse.  We just don’t want to think we are.

Those that want to control others and “own” them are actually extremely smart.  The method of control I describe in the story above is actually the most common methods used.  Controlling people will not just go up to someone and say, “I am going to control and abuse you.  If you don’t let me, I will use force to make you.”   It is a process that requires patients and knowledge of human nature but the victim will become a willing slave and won’t fight it. Most victims never even report it or try to leave the relationship. 

This form of control and abuse is not new.  It has been used for many years and around the globe.  It is so effective because we all have a huge flaw.  That flaw is human nature.  It is human nature to want to be loved, taken care of, and to have no responsibilities.  We are willing to give up freedom for security.  It is this part of human nature that some people take advantage of.  First, make the person feel special and gain your trust.  Make them believe that you care about them and that you are looking out for them.  Once trust is established, take away their ability to do things on their own by providing for them.  Give them the things they need to survive, like food, shelter, and clothes so that they don’t have to provide for themselves.  Next, make the person feel that they are worthless and that they can’t survive without you.  Attacking their self-esteem is very important because it is what will make them dependent on you and will lock them into the relationship.  Once this is done, you can do anything you want to them.

Individual relationships isn't the only place where this method of control and abuse is used.  Cults use this method all of the time.  Think about it, a cult depends on people JOINING so they never use force to get their victims.  The only difference is that they are doing it on a larger scale and need to make sure that everyone is convinced that they are looking out for the groups’ best interest. Another place where this method of control and abuse takes place may shock y’all.  It is in governments.  That is correct; dictators use this method to gain power.  Take a look at history.  While some dictators have used wars to take control, most have come into power without the use of weapons.  They get into government and then convince the people that they are looking out for their personal interest.  Many of these dictators are even voted into power by the people and even re-elected time and time again. See why I say that the majority of people are vulnerable to abuse?  This is why I don’t look to humans to take care of me, I look to God.  Take care and God Bless.

Love,

The Oklahoma Tomcat.

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The destruction of morals in America.

"Only a virtuous people are capable of freedom. As nations become corrupt and vicious, they have more need of masters."  - Benjamin Franklin

Greetings in the name of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.  How is everyone doing?  I pray that this blog finds everyone in good health and spirits.  Things are going good at the Jones household.  I got home early Friday mornings and left back out on Saturday.  It was a very productive day at the house though.  I worked to get things set up so that my family was able to stay warm while I am on the road.  I sure can't wait to get a local driving job though so that I can get things done with the house.  The house is in need of some major work and I just don't have the time to do it all.  It really kills me.  The good news is that I may have a job with a company that has an extremely flexible work schedule.  It is a temp company that hires truck drivers and they pay real good.  The person I am talking to at the company really wants to hire me.  I filled out the application and now waiting on her to contact me.

I hear lots of people that complain about the children and young people today and that complain about the government not being honest, making deals with corporations, and doing things that are not moral like the many sex scandals that we hear about.  I remember years ago while sitting at a truck stop, a female truck driving and I was talking about the young people today.  People start getting defensive when I start talking about this topic because guess who I blame for the lack of morals in America today?  Us.  People start out disagreeing with me until I explain why it is all of us that created this mess.

It seems that after we hit a certain age, we forget how we all were born and how we acted at young children.  I am sorry if I destroy anyone's fantasy, but none of us was born with love or morals.  That is correct, we were all born greedy.  It is shocking that anyone who had children wouldn't know this.  No one has to teach a child how to have a tantrum when they don't get their way.  People will talk about a young child giving a hug or a kiss but do they do that because it makes you feel good or because it feels good to them?  I believe it is more because it feels good to them.  Now, this isn't to say that children are terrible.  I do look at my children as angles.  But it is very important to understand human nature and that we are all born with it.  We must understand this in order to understand what it takes to have a moral society.  The good news is that we are all born ABLE to love.  But love has to be taught because we are not born with it.  In fact, we don't even know what love truly is.  We have to be taught what it is.  Don't believe me, go around and ask people what love is.  Of course, you have to know what love it yourself.  Same thing with morals.  How many children under 3 years old knows morals without being taught what morals are?  Honestly.  A funny word to me is the word "Common Courtesy."  Is courtesy common?  Are we born knowing how to be courtesy?  So, how can we show love, be moral, or show courtesy to others or society if we are not taught it?  If we don't remember that we were taught these things, than we don't realize that we must teach our children these things.  Now, most of the responsibility does fall onto parents but we as society are teaching people that children are born loving and to let "children be children."  We are telling government (who is immoral) to take over the raising of children.  We are even using psychology to tell us how to raise our children instead of using knowledge of human nature and our own childhood.  So, we are indeed all to blame.

We are also telling people that it is OK to be greedy.  If you don't have something and you want it, use the federal government to take money from someone else and give it to you.  Yes, I am talking about socialism and communism.  This creates two problems.  It promotes laziness and it also makes it easier for us not to show love to our neighbor.  Without socialism and communism, people would help one another.  Remember, love isn't just a feeling, it is an action.  If you truly love someone, you don't look to someone else to help them, you help them yourself.  Socialism and Communism gets rid of this love.  It is human nature to be selfish and take the easiest way out.  It is much easier to say that you care and let someone else actually do the work to help those in need.  But, being forced to give money to the poor isn't love at all.

Another thing that we accept, is to end human life for our own selfish greed.  Yep, abortion, the morning after pill, and birth control pills.  We justify this by saying, "Well, if a woman doesn't want a baby, she shouldn't have to have it."  Did we forget how babies are made?  We want the gratification of unprotected sex and are willing to end life to have it.  We don't hold guys responsible at all for preventing the female pregnant.  He can have all the sex he wants and doesn't have to worry if she gets pregnant.  Society has left it up to her to either be on birth control pills, take the morning after pill, get an abortion, or raise the child by herself at the expense of the tax payer.  No morals, no responsibility.  Are you wondering why our children and government are the way they are?

It is real simple to me.  Our children learn from us and our elected leaders come from society.  We elect the people who are in office into office and they are going to be an example of what society is.  We can blame TV, Clothes, the Internet all we want but the real problem is us.  There is no way around it my friends.  If we want to change our children or our government, we must change ourselves first.  If we don't, our country will just be another memory in the history of once great countries.

Take care and God Bless.

Love,
The Oklahoma Tomcat

Who is in control?

Greetings in the name of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. I am currently in Abilene, KS at the Alco Distribution Center. I am now on the Alco account where I pick up here and deliver to the Alco stores. It is a real easy and nice account. I like it and I get home every weekend.

This blog is one that I am not just writing for you, but also to remind me. It is a topic I have known for over 5 years but I have gotten away from it. It is based on a sermon that Paster Mike of Crosswalk Community Church in Oklahoma City (http://www.facebook.com/richland.crosswalk). The sermon reminded me that what I was doing was wrong and that I wasn't showing faith or obedience to God.

I have a question for everyone. Do you believe that God is in control over everything? If you said yes, then I ask, do you really? How about when things seem to be going bad for you or for someone you know? Do you believe that God is in control of the situation? If something bad is happening, do you believe 100% that God knew it was going to happen and He is allowing it to happen for a reason? Do you believe that the reason He is allowing it to happen is for good?

These are very very tough questions to answer. Those of us that knows God's word, knows the answer to them is "yes" but we all run into problems where it just doesn't make sense that a loving God would let these things happen and we ask "How in the world can this be used for good?"

Now, let me make this even more complicated. How about our elected leaders? Is God in control when it comes to who we have in power AND the laws they put in place. NOW is God in control or did God just give up on that? Does God have plans for every country and will His plans be carried out? I tell you, not only is God in control, but He is the one that gives our leaders authority (Rom 13:1-3). No one has authority on earth without God giving them authority. So, why would God give authority to people who clearly does wrong?

Throughout the Old Testament we see leaders who had hearts that were hardened. Pharaoh, Caesar, and Herod are three of the most popular Kings. But notice that God said that He gives ALL Authority. If you read through the Bible, you will notice the miracles that God was able to perform because of the king He placed in authority. Yes, these men did terrible things to people. But, God was able to use those terrible things to do better things for His people. There are times when God has to let "bad" people in power to achieve His good. Sometimes it is to wake people up, sometimes it is to prove something to us, sometimes it is to fulfill prophesy, and sometimes it is so He can do something that needs to be done. Whatever it is, we must be faithful to God and we must respect and honor that person who God placed in Authority.

Now, sometimes God does place someone in Authority who is good and a person of God, but that person strays. We see that LOTS of times in the Old Testament. Remember that God knew that person was going to go against Him even before God gave him authority. But God still chose that person and for good reason. Not only did God use that person for His purpose, but it also shows us just how weak we all are. No matter how close to God someone is or how good the person is, everyone falls. This is especially true when the person is given power. No man can rule over another man perfectly. But again, we must respect and honor those who God has given authority to.

Even today, God has complete control and still places people in authority for His good. God has a plan for all the countries and His plans will be carried out no matter what. We, as Christians, must trust that God's plans are good and that He knows what He is doing. Looking at history and reading the Bible, I believe that He is proving to us that what He said in 1 Samuel 8 is true. "This will be the manner of the king that shall reign over you: He will take your sons, and appoint them for himself, for his chariots, and to be his horsemen; and some shall run before his chariots. And he will appoint him captains over thousands, and captains over fifties; and will set them to ear his ground, and to reap his harvest, and to make his instruments of war, and instruments of his chariots. And he will take your daughters to be confectionaries, and to be cooks, and to be bakers. And he will take your fields, and your vineyards, and your olive yards, even the best of them, and give them to his servants. And he will take the tenth of your seed, and of your vineyards, and give to his officers, and to his servants. And he will take your menservants, and your maidservants, and your goodliest young men, and your asses, and put them to his work. He will take the tenth of your sheep: and ye shall be his servants. And ye shall cry out in that day because of your king which ye shall have chosen you; and the LORD will not hear you in that day." Remember, God was king of Israel before they chose to have a human king. God warned them that a human will not make a good king cause humans are greedy and can't handle power. Back then, they were called king. Today, we call them presidents. This is why when you see countries rise in power, it falls. America is no different. Even thought our founding fathers did set up a great government with the idea that no man can rule over a another man perfectly, America too has a problem. It has a human government that does eventually abuse it's powers. They tried to eliminate this problem by setting up a republic to which the federal government has to follow, but man is week and will figure out ways to get around the laws. God wants to show us that no matter what, man can not make a good government. No matter what type we form, it will abuse the people. This way when God returns, we will have learned our lesson and let Him, the only one that is perfect and good, be king.

So, yes, tougher times are in store for America. But it is to teach us and show us that God was correct. It shows us that no matter how things may appear to us, God is always telling us the truth. So, now I ask you, do you trust God? Do you trust Him enough to stop criticizing the person He has given Authority too? Enough to respect and honor the President? I know it is hard. I am still trying to change my thinking and actions. Just this morning I messed up again and posted something things on facebook that I shouldn't have. But we should keep working on doing what God wants us to. One of the things that helps me is to keep telling myself, "God is in control. He has a handle on this so I don't need to worry."

Now, I will add one thing. By respect and honor, that doesn't mean that we are to obey laws that go against God's word. For instance, lets say a law is made that says you are to no longer pray. What do you do? You continue to pray. Lets say that a law is made that says you are no longer to assemble as a church. What do you do? You continue to assemble. Lets say that a law is made that says your church must perform gay marriages. What do you do? You refuse to do them. Lets say a law is made that says your hospital must perform abortions. What do you do? You don't do them. This example is illustrated by Jesus, the disciples, Apostle Paul, and many others in the Bible. But notice that when they were tried, they still showed respect to Authorities and didn't even fight the person in authority. In fact, many times the king had trouble convicting the person brought before him because the person wasn't right out rebellious. So even when we go against a law that is contrary to God's word, we must be respectful to the people God gives authority to.

I pray that this blog has helped you understand God's Will for you when it comes to our elected leaders. I will continue to work on respecting and honoring those in office and will pray that God helps me. I ask for your prayers too for my flesh is extremely weak in this. I thank you for reading my blog. Take care and God Bless.

Love,
The Oklahoma Tomcat
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ref: ROMANS 13:1-7, I TIMOTHY 2:1-4, 1 Peter 2:13-25, Matthew 22:21, Acts 4:18-20