Greetings in the name of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. How is everyone doing? I pray that this blog finds everyone in good health and spirits. I am currently in Winfield, KS on my way to Abilene, KS. I just got back on the road after taking three wonderful days at home. Monday was the anniversary of Paula and my wedding. We have been married eight wonderful years. It is so hard to believe that we have been married that long. It feels like we just got married. Loving her is so fun and easy. I love her to death.
Today, I want to talk about marriage. I have asked people many times, "Why get married?" "What is marriage?" and many other questions like that and it is amazing that no one has been able to answer it. Here is a better one, "Why should government be involved?" I have posted on facebook, twitter, and even briefly blogged that government should be out of the marriage business. I was so happy when last month, Oklahoma law makers started talking about getting state government out of marriage. I back this idea 100%. Marriage is a private and personal matter. Who is government to grant people permission to marry anyway? Are they some kind of moral compass when it comes to marriage? What does it matter anyway if the government tells a couple they can't marry? If two people wants to live as a couple, they will do it with or without the government. So, it isn't like the government is stopping anything. Government has hurt marriage by making it a public and legal matter. Today, most people look at marriage as nothing more than a contract or a way to get more benefits. Because of this, people get married for the wrong reasons and end up getting divorced. There is absolutely no reason government needs to be involved in marriage. People can and should get married in their own way using whatever ceremony they want and having whoever they feels has authorization to marry them.
To make my point about government making marriage nothing more than a legal matter, I heard someone making the case as to why marriage has to be regulated by government on the radio today. I guess this issue has gained in popularity nationally. The person said that if two people get married without government, has children, shares money, and gets a divorce, who gets the children and the money if one person is a Catholic and the other becomes Atheist? They were both Catholic when they got married but now the other has changed to atheist. Everyone, raise your hands if you know two people who live together, have children, and then separate. What did they do when they separated and didn't agree on money, house, or kids? Go to court, right? Why can't that happen when two people get married privately? There really isn't any difference now between a legal marriage and two people who live together as if they are married. Those of you who are playing house and have children, if you two separate, you will have to go through the same thing as two people who divorce. So really, we will not have to change anything when it comes to divorce if government gets out of marriage. The only difference is that people will not have to ask for the government for permission to divorce because government will not recognize the marriage.
When it comes to benefits, government shouldn't be promoting marriage in any way shape or form. People shouldn't be rewarded by the government for getting married. Marriage should be personal and the reward should only be the marriage. If a couple is only getting married for the financial or other physical rewards, they shouldn't be getting married at all. They shouldn't even be living together because that isn't true love. Married people shouldn't be treated differently by the government than single people either.
If you support government getting out of marriage, please contact your repressentatives in Washington and in your state. If you have any questions, feel free to comment the questions in this blog, on facebook (oktomcat), or on twitter (oktomcat). Take care and God Bless.
The Oklahoma Tomcat